2012 was cranking up to be the best year yet for our family. Francis married to Maree for nearly two years; Chris in a new job and enjoying it; Sue working for Statistics New Zealand in a rerun of the 2011 failed Census; Rowan attacking everything that came his way with enthusiasm and verve – his 10 day voyage on the Spirit of New Zealand, an underwater diving course, the confirmation of him being elected as Head Boy for 2013 – awesome year – taken away in the blink of an eye. 2012 became the worst year we have ever, as a family, experienced. 26th December 2012 – a date fixed in our minds forever; the day Rowan was swiftly taken from this earth and deposited just out of our reach.
Since 2012 I have met some amazing, beautiful people – people whom I would never have met if it hadn’t been for the horrendous accident at the end of 2012 which took Rowan away from us. I would never refer to Rowie’s death as serendipitous – this would be taking my foray into spirituality way, way too far but I have to say that if I had to try to find a positive to come from this appalling event it would be that I have met, spoken to and written to some incredible people in the last two years.
Old friends do not lessen in their value to me – they have known us, warts and all, for many years and have stuck by us through happy times and sad times and I will love them always.
But since the passing of Rowie I have found it rewarding to hang out with people who indulge my curiosity and fascination with the spiritual side of human existence – a side that not everyone believes in or appreciates and a side that sometimes scares people away however long they may have known you.
I have a young friend whom I met through Rowan. I sadly didn’t get to meet her whilst he was alive but we private message each other on Facebook and have remained in contact throughout the last two years. Chris, Francis and I actually got to meet her earlier this year which was awesome and we could immediately understand Rowie’s fascination for her. She is a very warm, kind and spiritual soul which is why, I am convinced, Rowie was drawn to her initially. Those people I envy, my spiritual cronies, tell me that he spends time with her still.
I have met, as mentioned before, several other people who Rowie has given the seal of approval to! He shows up in their lives as if he has known them forever! Lynn from Gore was the first to experience his sense of humour across the veil and she has never ever failed to amaze us! He has shown up many times since for Jodie, Jose, Kelvin, Janice and now Lyn (who doesn’t even seek to see spirit) – lucky, lucky soul!
As I have said before just think how happy it must make him, and all our loved ones who have passed over, feel to know that there are people who can see them, hear them, sense them (clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience) and pass messages on to those that they love. These wonderfully gifted people show up all over. This young friend of Rowans was approached by someone in a crowd who told her she had spirit with her and supporting her.
I don’t ask for these folk to see Rowie or feel him – he just shows up when he knows he is needed.
Another young friend of Rowans visited a Chinese healer. She did not tell him of her history but he accurately picked up that she had lost someone very close to her recently and healed her accordingly. She has been relieved of the weight that was sitting so heavily on her chest and sleeps better and feels so much more energetic and able to cope with day to day stresses.
I find that my healing continues by being open with people; by not being afraid to talk about my feelings and by taking control of my own life. No-one can hurt me without my permission! If folk don’t believe in my reality they are perfectly welcome to create their own. When you are not afraid to do what you are thinking you are being true to yourself; you are following your heart. When you follow your heart you find that, most of time, you have an inner happiness and contentment. Gandhi said “You must be the change you wish to see in the world”. Another way of coping with past trauma and past hurt is to try not to live in the past – the present moment is the only one that we really have any control over – and I am trying to make sure that this is what counts!
If you sit at home and hope things will go away or hope things will get better you are doing nothing to help yourself. Get out there – you will be amazed at how many like-minded people you will find by just opening yourself up!