The excitement of finding out you are going to become parents is absolutely amazing. I remember the thrill of sharing my body with a wee soul as it prepared to launch itself on the world! I never stopped to think about the true importance of children being born onto this planet and their influence in its welfare.
I, as most parents, looked on my new-borns as beings that came to us knowing nothing at all – barren ground ready for us to sow the seeds and grow them. When I now think about these wee souls, I realise that they come to us knowing the most important life lesson that there is; that of love. The only needs that babies/children require of us are love and sustenance.
When a child comes to us, how many times a day do we tell them, “Not now!”, or “Shhhh, in a minute”, or “Come back later” because you are busy right now. There are only so many times you can say these things to a child before it begins to question its worth and before it stops asking questions and for reassurance and love from us. So many children are unheard, feel unloved, and feel insecure. If we were to take more time with them, we would see a different type of human evolve – one that is wholly compassionate and caring, and one that has infinite time for others too. We need to fill the world with these children!
Family life is no longer as it used to be. I am not completely ancient but I do remember evenings spent playing board games with the family and crazy, mad card sessions! Francis and I play daily scrabble on our phones now! It’s great fun. He spent an afternoon with me a few weeks ago. We were sat talking, and playing phone scrabble as we talked. I forget who thought of it first but we suddenly realised how ridiculous we were! Francis went into the lounge and came back carrying the original scrabble board game! We sat and talked and played and laughed. We allowed in the light and our day positively shone!
Instead of speaking to each other, we are in fear of abstaining and using machines to speak for us! When you speak with people you generate energy. The person you’re talking to can hear the warmth in your voice, as well as hearing your words and they can feel the energy of those words. Texting someone just doesn’t have the same energy! We are somehow losing the ability to connect with each other on a spiritual level.
Televisions are awesome. They bring nature and the world into our living rooms. But television programmes don’t require any interaction. To sit a child down in front of the television instead of reading to them or playing a game with them distances them from you. They have televisions, computers, tablets, smart phones; all amazing examples of technology, but those can’t replace a knee to sit on or a reassuring hug as you share a picture book with your babies and children.
My mother was a shining example!
She would read to us as children until she was hoarse! She would then make sure that she stopped reading just as the book became exciting to the max! She would leave us “just for minute” and come back 5 minutes later to find us reading on for ourselves! She would then take over and read again but she had given us the push, the nudge to try for ourselves. My sister and I are both avid readers. We have a passion for books that was lovingly given to us by our Mum.
She would drop everything for a game of cards! Housework was never important enough to drag her away from a good game of cards – and this practise continued with her grandchildren too! Francis and Rowie always knew that if Mum and Dad were too busy, Gran would always be up for a game (except Monopoly)!! She would down tools and play, tell stories, read – you never had to ask her twice!
Children have the ability to voice their feelings very well. They have more of an ability to grasp at knowledge than we, their parents, do. A child is like a sponge. They are open. They are non-judgemental. They have the ability to see answers that go beyond logic. They deserve our time and our love. The impact our actions have on future generations and how, who and what we do and are, mould our children into the adults that they become – what an incredible but awe-inspiring responsibility!
Let’s listen to our children. What we dismiss as not being important; perhaps their interminable chatter, may not mean much to us, but to them it means everything. Make them feel heard. Let them feel that they can talk to us anytime; and listen to what they are trying to tell us. Ask ourselves, is ten minutes of playtime with our children more important than some task – and I’m guessing that it probably is ninety-nine times out of a hundred!
By listening and spending time with our children, we are teaching them life skills that will enable them to be caring, sharing people, who listen to others. They will have confidence, feel good about themselves, and most importantly, feel loved. I think that parenting is the most responsible and important task we have in life. When we invest time in our children, we’re also investing time in the future of mankind and its planet. Wow!